1. Healing is being patient with yourself. It is going easy on yourself and not constantly
questioning why you feel the way you do.
2. Healing is not giving in to every desire and urge. The urge to call them up. The desire
to see their pictures. The urge to eat the whole jar of nutella.
3. Healing is being with yourself. It is acknowledging your thoughts and feelings and
dealing with them rather than indulging in destructive coping mechanisms.
4. But healing is also knowing that sometimes you have to acknowledge the presence
of a particular thought or feeling and then simply move on realizing that it's a trap, it
doesn't exist, it's not an actual problem or cause of worry but just something your
insecurities and anxiety have inflated.
5. Healing is accepting that them being happy or not honestly has nothing on your life or
how happy you can be. That because they chose to leave and never looked back, there is
no correlation between your lives. Them being happy without you may hurt at first but in
the long run it really has no relation to your life and is definitely not a restriction to you
leading a happy life too. They are doing their thing, you can do yours.
6. Healing is not being rigid. Yes, you thought you would visit that place or watch that
movie with him but now he is gone. Or you wanted to look a certain way or be a certain
someone by the time you were 25. Let go of that idea. Embrace who you are now. Enjoy
the beauty of that movie and place anyway. How fun is a predictable story or the spoilers
of a book anyway? Enjoy the plot twists of your life. They do come with redemption.
7. Healing is being able to enjoy the little things again. It's not being bored with every
book you read or any TV show you watch or not noticing the grin on that child's face
dirty with chocolate ice cream. Healing is being mindful again.